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Pedophile Denial
Reality is pretty scary stuff.
In the aftermath of the onerous levy of penalty against the whole of the Penn State community and after listening to Mark Levin, my first thought was pretty much to simply agree, that these NCAA guys are a bunch of hideous, pompous Liberals, as usual, ready to punish everyone BUT the criminals.
But the more I think about it, I begin to suspect that not all of the blame is clearly in focus. Vehement finger pointing, as in, "Methinks he doth protest too much," tends to indict the accuser. Or as an ex-wife once liked to say, "A good point, but not one well made by you." I think everyone who's touched on this subject, including myself, has been operating on some sort of diversion principal. "Let's nail these rotten guys who looked away" (desperate to be heard). "Cause none of us would have done that!" (hoping everyone's listening). "Let's kill the whole school and the town so no one would dare to dream that we'd ever be such cowards as to look away like that! And leave the children at risk!" (so they'll all know I'm the righteous one).
Bull!
There are pedophiles in every town and probably in almost every family. Perhaps, pretending otherwise comes close to being a national past-time. Could it be, by the same token that there is scarce a man in America confessing to the practice of onanism, that none of us have EVER crossed paths with an actual pedophile? Two sides of the same kind of lie, I'd guess.
Why does the left especially have to pretend to recoil in horror and point such urgent fingers? Those who in all other things display such "tolerance"? The sexual predators of children are a unique and terrible lot to all of us, but infinitely more so to those who defend the homosexual lifestyle. The left, for reasons, all of which are profoundly suspect, wish to justify their claims for special Homosexual "Rights." Key to their arguments is the fallacy that homosexuality is not volitional. Though the thesis has been amply disproved, they still want us to believe that it is genetic, that they were "born that way" and have no choice. And therefore we are called upon to honor their common humanity. Therefore, by that logic, no space remains for talk about sin and things unnatural, unhealthy and destructive. Therefore all else can be reduced to "homophobia."
But homosexuality is NOT genetic. There was a brief flurry a few years back about a paper that "proved" the theory, "scientifically." But the study was so hysterically skewed that even the proponents had to quit referring to it specifically and fall back on the "Global Warming" gambit of simply stating that their belief is now "proven Science," and so no further argument exists. But, while the cause of the homosexual proclivity is surely not inborn, neither is it, by any means, entirely volitional. To that extent, I'm afraid they are correct. But the actual cause they can never concede. Every justification they offer melts away in the face of it. It is, quite sadly, a learned behavior, taught at an early age, in lessons so infused with evil intensity, that they become ingrained in the psyche of the victim. Intimidated into silence and left alone there within a thing that grinds against the innate conscience, the innocent mind has no choice but to name the evil thing as a good. So it begins. And so it repeats and continues through the generations, age upon younger age.
If this is true, then the 2-3% of the population that reaches adulthood with this inclination toward those of their own sex, have all been the victims of pedophiles. If this is true, but not quite always, then 10% of the population may have been the victims of pedophiles, but most have come through it somehow, with their natural identity more or less intact.
The defenders of all things "gay" would also have us believe that sexual predators are more often hetero men after little girls. They become particularly incensed in arguing this point. But the percentage of gay men seeking boys is immensely greater that of heterosexual men seeking girls. Am I wrong to reflect that predatory female homosexual pedophilia is a relative rarity? I confess ignorance, but I've not heard much on that, that I recall. If it's approximate that boys and girls are violated in a similar proportion, which I'm frankly guessing to be the case, then one in a hundred heterosexual pedophiles might be found for one of every three homosexual predators. Someone else can dig out the numbers, just don't go looking in the Kinsey Report. I'm just saying that in rough measure the proportions of this reality are pretty stark in suggesting that, perhaps indeed, sin does gather upon sin, and that perversity, if practiced at the cost of a soul, grows restless and seeks amusements in yet the more perverse. And there is something more. Pedophiles tend to be incurable. The numbers of victims of any one of them, who has mastered the arts of avoiding detection (i.e seducing the most emotionally vulnerable and then commanding their silence through terror), tend to run in the hundreds. I wonder if those who have suffered their pleasures is not far more than the 10% I've suggested. I wonder if it is not an experience approaching universality.
Maybe this is the truth. Pedophilia is a nightmare from which every gaze is averted. It is a reality entering into every life which is to be fervently denied. It is a family member in just about every clan, whose known histories are hushed, and whose victims are placated, humored or punished, for the sake of the family name.
Homosexuality, and the acceptance of it, has marked the beginning of the end for every culture in history. We can see the writing on the wall. The time for pretending and denying, and then self righteously blaming, that, which has reached out and touched so many of us, is passed.
15 Comments
Steve Mizera in Christmas Valley Oregon
Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 1:00 AM
If it is true that it takes a thief to know -- really know -- a thief, then perhaps it may also be true that it takes a pedophile to know a pedophile. I will assume you are not a thief . I will also assume you are not a pedophile or even a homosexual. So my question is: What qualifies you to claim such intimate knowledge in order to express and base your opinion?
I just completed my unbelievable autobiography after 71 years. It would do you a world of good to read my deepest thoughts that I penned in order to try to answer two questions: What was the cause of MY pedophilia? And, is there a cure?
Many of my critics argue there con only be control not a cure. These same people when asked what is the cause are silent. Theraphy and the threat of imprisonment may act to control some pedophiles from being child molesters , but there is only one cure.
You are welcome to read my book at vistagraphs.net/pedo.html
Perhaps it may cause you to modify your understanding and to present future opinions based on knowledge.
Jim in Alabama
Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 8:57 AM
Appreciated. I don't think I'm claiming any great knowledge. I'm certainly asking some questions and inviting readers to suspect my bias. Just connecting the dots and putting it out there as food thought. The thesis the ALL homosexuality is the result of direct, physical influence is surely worth questioning. Without forgiveness there is deep anger and from that comes the repetition of the original offense. That's my experience. I think that's the essence of Christ's teaching. The choice is always forgiveness and repentance or sin and eternal misery. Pedophiles and Homosexuals and every manner of people who follow impulses outside the realm of innate conscience are bubbling cauldrons of blame. Though I am neither of the former, I have ample experience with the latter. In this world there is always something onto which one can reach back and hang the justification for blame. To Repent is to take responsibility for doing wrong and to say, "No more". To Forgive is to remove the source of blame and the excuse for doing wrong. Both become possible within an honest faith in Christ. I am certain that Christ is the only cure for sin of any kind.
Steve Mizera in Christmas Valley Oregon
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 11:40 AM
Thanks Jim. You must have read my book, because Christ is the only cure to any criminal behavior, especialyy child abuse. Unfortunately, people such as Trudy who responded, should focus on prevention, rather than revulsion. Once the get by that attitude they can look at the beginning of the problem instead of the end. After 71 years I sought to contribute to the solution to the devastating problem of child abuse. I wrote my autobiography to examine the reasons for my behavior and offering insight to anyone else who is looking for a solution.
Christ is the cure, therapy and the threat of imprisonment act to control child abuse, but the focus needs to be on prevention, not revenge.
I read the sex offender issues blog daily and am not surprised to see how many law enforcement officers are convicted of molesting children or possessing child porn which is a pre-requisite to molestation.
Had education relating to child abuse been available to me, I would not have offended. Society spends so much time on the wrong end of the problem, and unless the focus is shifted to prevention instead of punishment, society will continue suffering the devastating consequences.
Trudy in alabama
Tuesday, July 31, 2012 at 2:28 PM
Steve, that's a big IF you have at the beginning of your statement. I contend it is false. Your argument is that it takes one to know one. Hogwash. You absolutely cannot justify bad behavior just because some people engage in it. Wrong is wrong. Period.
Steve Mizera in Christmas Valley Oregon
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 11:55 AM
Trudy, I was merely trying to determine what credentials the author had. By using the IF statement, I was excluding direct knowledge as a pre-requisute to understanding the problem of child abuse.
This is in contrast to my credentials - a convicted sex offender thirty two years ago- who has not re-offended' but a person who has first hand information to offer to anyone who is interested in preventing child abuse, instead of merely condeming and re-condeming. I certainly am not justifying bad behavior. On the contrary, in my book: Pedophilia: A Cause and A Cure, I examine the reasons for my fifty years of criminal behavior. Readers can benefit from my disseminating my darkest secrets. My goal in writing was to prevent child abuse.
Again, society, including you, should be asking How do we prevent child abuse, and not How do we punish and re-punish the offender.
Thanks for taking the time to express your opinion.
Jim in Alabama
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 1:11 PM
Understanding is a wonderful thing. But it usually takes years, a slew of bad moves, and a rare willingness you see oneself as being in the wrong, to get so much as a drop of the stuff. Unfortunately, as a society, we're a little light on respect for the wisdom of the elderly these days. The value for "understanding" has been largely replaced by What's Cool, at best. At worst it's place is usurped by liberal pretenders, who imagine that they're acting from the deepest of sympathetic feelings, while consistently placing the rights of the offenders ahead of those actually injured.
In the mean time punishment has its place. I would favor a society which levied no penalty on harm done to pedophiles caught in the act, or shortly thereafter. The protective wrath of parents should be well honored and serve as a deterent. I would favor a society which effectively placed pedophiles out of the reach of children. A decent and safe place with inviolate borders. I would make sure that those in a position to allow their re-entry into general society would be former victims of pedophiles who have been trained to discern genuine and proven repentance and healing. Perhaps people like you could join them with a seat on the panel.
Jim in Alabama
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 1:20 PM
Surely the current system of politically appointed parole board morons is not working at all. Its so hard to catch one and then to turn them loose again without having made the slightest real change is simply a horrible condemnation upon the countless innocent.
MAJ USA Ret in St Louis
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 1:32 PM
As yet none have proved a natural cause for homosexuality, pedophilia, or any perverse sexual practices. “Perverse”: that which does not comply with the Creator’s intended function: pleasure and procreation exclusively within the bounds of holy matrimony between one man and one woman for life. Some assert recorded observations of homosexual behaviors among primates, mammals and animals require a “natural” cause. That is merely a hypothesis, not “proof”. Furthermore, their conclusion rests on three faulty presuppositions: (1) Activities in nature are not evil.
(2) Natural phenomena is valid with authority to validate human behavior. (3) Humans are animals, albeit perhaps highly evolved, and our core behavior must be expected to conform accordingly. These beliefs compound to dehumanize each of us. They compel all to conform to the will of the “majority”. Finally, they prohibit any authority outside humankind. History has relentlessly demonstrated there are only one of two outcomes of imposing such worldview onto society: tyranny of the power elite who placate the will of the majority or chaos. Each of these are fatal to individual liberties for the sake of conformity or survival. Rather than the original American Dream, we have a perverse nightmare. Homosexuals demand the same rights and privileges of heterosexual married couples. Too many of our courts decide denying homosexuals the right to marry is discriminatory, and site the state (the nation) failed to demonstrate a compelling reason to deny homosexual marriage. I am not confident we can demonstrate conclusively the validity of your assertion: “Homosexuality, and the acceptance of it, has marked the beginning of the end for every culture in history.” However, I am absolutely confident that we cannot find any enduring culture that promoted homosexuality to the same authority as the traditional family. We might argue endlessly about the morality and causes of homosexuality, but it is insane to ignore thousands of years and hundreds of cultures that demonstrate overwhelmingly the traditional family must be preserved, protected and promoted for the survival of the culture. If we allow homosexual marriage, we can be confident history, if ever permitted to record the truth, will record this wicked generation’s promotion of perverse homosexual behavior as equally valid to traditional families was the fatal blow to this once greatest nation on earth.
rippedchef in sc
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 4:33 PM
@ Steve- What a load of crap.Your post is the most self-serving,pathetic attempt at justification I've ever seen.Just another way for you to flaunt your escapades-50 years of pedophilia?How many victims?Have you found every victim and begged forgiveness and suffered through whatever they had to say or do?Why write a book now-to what end-whats the matter,too old now to over power a 12 yr old so now you relive your crimes under the guise of helping others-you sir are a pathetic evil monster??"Preventing " child abuse-hogwash-like an arsonist writing a book on fire prevention I don't believe a word of it.Let's ask the parents of your victims what they think-your damn lucky you never got near my kids,jail would be the least of your worries.
Jim in Alabama
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 5:41 PM
Steve,
Yes and No. You're probably right. The worst view of people tends to be a pretty good bet...but not always. I definitely share your gut sense about pedophiles in general.
But look. Pedophiles surely do beget pedophiles. Do all of them report being "Broken In" at an early age? Do all Homosexuals? Have almost all of us been tapped or tested or tried at some point, and dodged it but been ticked or been caught but rejected it and been triply pissed off our whole lives?
A kid gets trapped and he gets slimed. He's an innocent. He has an inborn, God given sense of the right and the wrong. He knows deeper than words and beyond the probable chance of communicating with an empathetic heart, that he's been made a part of something rotten and disgusting. If he can't find a voice to say no or an ear to hear him, he comes to say yes to it, and to become its justification. Its a weird but really potent process. That wasn't his choice.
Killers become killers later in life. Their choice, all grown up. I say string 'em up tomorrow and be done with them.
Pedophiles start out as victims. I strongly believe that's almost always true. Hate the sin but love the sinner. My Savior says so. I've done enough wrong in this life that I want to cling to that. Does this business of Forgiving and Understanding have pitfalls of its own? Does Steve twist it to come full circle and say, "See, it wasn't my really ever my fault." That's the danger isn't it? But it might be one he's very aware of. Harder to avoid by a lot to the degree there's some truth to it.
Jim in Alabama
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 5:41 PM
At the end of the day I want to believe the guy. I have to because I believe Christ. Forgiveness is offered. It's there for the taking. Repentance is Possible. Ask and you shall receive. Knock and it shall be opened. Look into the organizations that are leading people out of the death of homosexuality into life, and marriage and normalcy, and happiness. There are endless stories of victory for people who have asked Christ to change them and forgive them and carry them through every weakness. The Screaming Queer Parties all say this is impossible but they lie. Steve might well contend with memories that excite him. He might still be trying to justify himself. Wouldn't you? There but by the grace of God...you were the boy who turned down the street on the right. If you'd turned down the street on the left, the man was waiting there and nothing would have been the same. Steve also claims to have become a non-offender. He seems to have written a book on the issue. Might be worth a peak? Can you be sure its all an exercise in vicious, vicarious pleasure. Sweet dreams of days gone by? Or do you think he might have spent some serious time recoiling in horror, at things he did? God alone will judge his heart, but he seems to be acting against the nightmare, not to advance it.
I'd go with Reagan's dictum for these guys, "Trust but Verify", to the nth degree.
I'm with you. Touch my kids, and I'll put you down. Without a tear.
But I'm a bit more optimistic about Steve possibilities. If he says," Jesus, touch my heart and lift me up," my prayers go with him.
Jim in Alabama
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 7:02 PM
Missed that one ...response should be addressed to "rippedchef" in sc...very sorry...bad spot for confusion, rather...
rippedchef in sc
Wednesday, August 1, 2012 at 7:47 PM
no worries bro-I have a hard enough time with pedophiles without some guy like Steve proclaiming his sin to be some repenant warning for others by explaining his "darkest thoughts".You are to be commended for your optimism and I know well it's up to God and Steve as to his forgiveness but I gotta say if I see him after I take my last breath I'll be quite suprised.Thanks for your post on such a difficult subject-I'll be extra vigilant watching my 4 kids from 3 to 18 so I guess I do have something to thank Steve for-Take Care-Rippedchef
Daniel Freysinger in Colorado Springs, CO
Tuesday, August 21, 2012 at 11:59 PM
My name is Daniel Freysinger. Steve may remember that name as I stared at him in a court room for two years after several months of abuse. If he has indeed found a cure, that is great. But, he has no right to make a profit from a book describing how he screwed up my life. It took years for me to understand what a healthy relationship was after his abuse. I ask that nobody spend a dime on his book. Forgiveness doesn't mean being relieved of the consequence of one's actions.
Steve Mizera in Christmas Valley OR
Tuesday, August 28, 2012 at 12:39 PM
All profits from my books go to my church and its mission for abused children. My sources of income are from my vistagraphs.