Mothers — Living and Leaving a Legacy
Two feminist icons say motherhood is meaningful. Cue the outrage.
The angry world of militant feminism was shaken recently by women leftists once embraced as models of their cause. In two recent cases, those women identified motherhood as a fulfilling purpose of womanhood. Cue (even more) feminist outrage.
Heads exploded as Grammy- and Academy Award-winning star Adele was described by Vogue magazine in the gifted singer’s own words, identifying her son as having given her purpose.
Oh, dear. Vogue, is hardly a publication that honors the personal sacrifice of females to nurture and love their children. Rather, Vogue regales narcissistic self-worship and pampering that glorifies the “life-sized Barbie” exterior with a special emphasis on one’s personal ambitions and success as the priority.
It was within the pages of the self-absorbed magazine that Adele made these earth-shattering statements referring to her three-year-old son: “I can’t have any other junk in my head to worry about as well. [Angelo] makes me very proud of myself. When I became a parent, I felt like I was truly living. I had a purpose, where before I didn’t. … My main thing is Mum, then it’s me, then it’s work. I think I had to take the right amount of time off to let people miss me. I just didn’t really know what I was going on about.”
“I am woman, hear me roar” is not the caption assigned to the photo of the cultural icon caressing her toddler son perched on her hip — a pose frequently taken by moms attempting to multitask.
You see, feminists apparently find the gratification of motherhood to be an existential threat to the movement populated by the elite of the angry Left and those looking for a cause versus a purpose.
Understand that if a star with universal adoration is to have implied that her life previous to motherhood was less than complete, the narrative that fuels feminism — especially for the pro-abortion crowd — has been severely impacted.
Remember when then-POTUS-candidate Barack Obama declared in 2008 he would never want one of his daughters to be “punished with a baby?” Oops. It seems Adele views the life yielded from creation’s work a blessing and reward, not a burden or “punishment.” Again, the end result of motherhood — a loved child who has been nurtured and shaped by a committed female adult — has far less value in the eyes of feminists than the liberated, unencumbered woman who espouses the death-dripping declaration of Margaret Sanger, birth-control activist and mother of Planned Parenthood: “No woman can call herself free until she can choose consciously whether she will or will not be a mother.”
Meanwhile, just a few weeks back, mixed martial arts (MMA) champion and Ultimate Fighting Championship’s #1 female bantamweight boxer in the world, Ronda Rousey, shared on daytime talk TV her suicidal thoughts following an upset loss. Having been taken beyond the first round of a match for only the second time in her undefeated MMA career, a second-round blow to the head sent the female specimen of physical prowess to the mat in November 2015. The blow took a toll not just physically but psychologically.
In the arena, Rousey personified the potential of female physical power. Yet after her first and only defeat, her introspection left her initially unable to answer the question, “What am I anymore, if not this?”
Rousey recalled her post-fight encounter with her own value: “I was sitting there thinking about killing myself, thinking, ‘I’m nothing. What can I do any more? No one gives a s— about me any more.’ Then I looked up and saw my man Travis, and I thought, ‘I need to have his babies. I need to stay alive.’”
A modern-day warrior goddess like Athena, Rousey had been physically knocked flat by a rival in sport but her reality was shaken by a sudden awareness. The 29-year-old had allowed her significance to be defined through the lens of physical dominance and pop-culture entertainment value. With one blow to her head, she was no longer UFC Champion and, based on a twisted view of her own existence, contemplated suicide when she determined she offered no other purpose.
Yet sitting in the medical treatment room after the loss, the love of her boyfriend opened her eyes to the awareness of a feminine purpose beyond fighting. The vision of motherhood saved the life of a career giant who was the third-most searched person on Google in 2015.
A few realities regarding feminism are in order.
First, feminism hides behind the demands of “equality” when “sameness” is sought to eliminate any gender-based roles or societal rules. Despite the true and imperative value of women across the line of our world history, feminist women are determined to be the best man they can be, while undermining men at every turn.
Second, feminism serves to degrade women who don’t militantly embrace the angry perspective toward men as Neanderthals who know nothing more than oppression and physical aggression. Feminists certainly can’t abide the notion that a man and a woman form a complementary relationship — that is, one that together makes them complete and stronger than when alone.
Finally, in the case of both Adele and Rousey, feminism is fulfilling as long as you’re performance is on top; your externalities line up with a cultural substitute for self-fulfillment; and the frailties of humanity are in check. You see, feminism stresses the independence of the female and despises interdependence and collaboration of these complementary relationships with male counterparts.
“Mother” is a delineation of a woman who has not just conceived a child, but who has embraced the title of immeasurable societal value and purpose to her own life, the foundations of civilization and its very existence. A feminist exists within the confines of a movement that contrives value of women being less than their created purpose. Being a mother is living and leaving a legacy.