At the apex of the Trayvon Martin case, progressives were on the edge of their seats in anticipation for President Barack Obama’s sentiments about the situation. After all, this was America’s first black president, so surely he would be the voice of reason and guidance in light of racial reconciliation.

Instead of reasonable conjecture, Obama waxed poetic about how, if he had a son, he’d look like Martin. Though his words pulled at the heartstrings of black progressives, the statement was particularly condemning for the so-called “people of color” — painting any random black male as a person who would likely find themselves in the same scenario as Martin did when he encountered George Zimmerman.

Let’s then fast forward to the Amaud Arbery situation that transpired earlier this year. While a nationwide consensus has yet to be achieved, a light of criminal activity has been cast upon Arbery, who people claimed was just taking a jog but we now understand to be trespassing. And as reports suggest, Arbery found himself in a gun-involved struggle with a white father and son that ultimately cost Arbery his own life.

As developing information emerges, the public eye is still fixated on Arbery’s innocence, that he had every right to be where he was. I’m then told by the due process dissenters that any one of my four sons could have been Arbery.

There is so much untruth in that statement.

No, not a single one of my sons, nor Barack Obama’s hypothetical son, would find themselves where Arbery did. The chances are far too slim.

In fact, far more black men will go on to live productive lives than will find themselves in such perilous predicaments. No, the media will never share this. Their cameras stay focused on stories steeped in controversy, ambiguity, and few facts. Hardly will you ever see the black male in the light of success or positivity.

Most black men are like myself mind our own business and are concerned about ourselves and raising our families, just like any other upstanding, red-blooded American. Following the mold are my sons, who keep their noses in the books and the Bible, and who strive to be productive men someday.

The reality is that white men from fatherless homes account for the majority of these criminal encounters involving a gun or a mass shooting. The reality is that black men raised by both their mother and father are more docile and law-abiding than the media will ever admit. The source of reckless behavior is more likely than not the result of fatherless homes.

Knowing this, Obama couldn’t possibly have a son like Trayvon, nor could I. Because we, as fathers, are present. That makes the difference.