In a sad but necessary decision, restaurant owner Kevin Kelley had to resort to using cursing and harsh language to settle down female patrons for dancing provocatively in his business. Kelley’s rant went viral, but the praise overwhelmed any backlash he would have received.

I, too, applaud Kelley. One, for having a backbone and defending his business as well as surrounding customers, and two for being the rebuke that some immature women needed — especially today.

What you’ll see in the viral video is a tale of two kinds of black people. Hopefully, the polarities I present will dispel the myth that black people think and act the same, as most people exist on a spectrum. On one side, we have out-of-control people who lack discernment, awareness, and decency in a public setting. This is often attributed to lack of righteous parenting in the home, be it upbringing by a single mother and/or exposure to lewd media at a young age.

On the other side, there are conservative black Americans who hold true to the values and morals that families of all backgrounds embrace. These people lead by example and defend what is decent and wholesome.

Kelley, like many business owners, had rules for his establishment — including a dress code that prohibited “bodysuits” and “tank tops.” Sadly, a good portion of black people today grow up without those moral boundaries being set. And as we see with many households lacking a father figure or a male authority, they never learn how to dress appropriately, speak kindly, or conduct themselves in public — the fundamentals of a solid upbringing. This is especially critical in the case of the black woman who is likely to grow up and repeat this pattern, continuing the dismal downward spiral of the black community.

I figure Kelley — like many black men who are making an honest living — understood this reality and responded in the best way that he could to reach the female patrons. I’m sure he regrets the truth of the matter — that it takes a righteous man with a sharp tongue to shine light into darkened hearts.

In comparison, many black women today are ruined by feminism. Seeking only power and control, they leave nothing to offer society but a ruling hand and a loud voice. Many men come to me seeking advice on how to manage and deal with these encounters in a peaceable manner. They mention their overbearing coworkers, mothers, girlfriends, and wives, asking for guidance and how to cure these women of this generational curse.

My counsel to them is to never yield to the demands of an angry woman with a dark heart. This is not because I believe that men are somehow better than women. This truth has little to do with some sort of “toxic masculinity” notion being espoused today. No, this has more to do with helping women find the reassurance only a man can provide.

A daughter who hears a stern but loving word from her father will always know which way she should go. As for men — particularly black men — the way to right the sinking ship that is the black community is to embody true leadership. If black men truly love their black women, they wouldn’t allow them to go the direction of Stacey Abrams and Kamala Harris, who only seek control and self-glorification. A man who loves his community will always stand on the front lines to protect it. They don’t “co-lead” or share responsibilities with women. They instead offer the peace of mind that only a strong male figure can provide.

Like the joy a child experiences as the father returns to the home, we will see positive changes in the black community should more black men lead by Kelley’s example. By commanding respect for oneself and for others, black women with dark hearts will find a sense of direction on a well-lit path. On this path, they will no longer need to seek outward attention. They will finally be able to rest into their true nature — like their great-grandmothers did — and join the rest of us on a positive path forward.